Last week, we posted tips on how to begin the closure process if you will be ending your match with your mentee at the end of this year. Preparing your student and yourself for the end of your formal relationship is very important.
Today we will discuss some activities you can do with your mentee to ease the transition.
Looking Back on Your Mentoring Experience. The two of you have been through a lot together – the ups and downs, some fun activities, maybe some tough discussions. As you look back at your time together, it is important for you to think about what you have gained from the mentoring experience. Below are some questions to help each of you reflect on your mentoring experience.
- What has being part of TeamMates taught me about myself?
- What has being part of TeamMates taught me about the world around me?
- Am I satisfied with the kind of mentor or mentee I have been?
- What three things am I most proud of?
- What are each other’s strengths?
- What have you taught each other?
- What will you always remember about your relationship?
- Because of the mentoring experience, what will you do more, less, or differently in life?
Friendship Bracelets are a fun activity to do together that you can each have with you to remember your friendship and time together. You can work on these while discussing your relationship and fun times you have had together. This website (the Purl Bee) has detailed, step-by-step instructions with pictures. All you will need is some embroidery floss that is you and your mentee’s favorite colors.
Now and Then Spend time noticing changes and accomplishments from when you started your mentoring relationship to now. How have you each changed? What music do you listen to now? Any major life changes? Are you a better listener now? Is your mentee taller? You can just discuss these items, write them down, or represent it with pictures or a collage.
Keepsake Box Another way to store memories from your relationship is to create a keepsake box. If you have any mementos from your favorite activities, place them in the box along with a description of the activity. You can also create your own mementors. If you favorite activity was playing UNO, place a deck of cards in the box or draw a picture. Write a note about why you enjoyed that activity together. If you each make one then you can cherish the memories for years to come.
If you have any questions about how to handle closure and the transition, contact your TeamMates Chapter Coordinator. It is important that they are also aware of the end of you relationship. TeamMates appreciates the time that you are able to commit to a youth in your community.